I was tagged!

miss them a lot!!

My bro tagged me. I have never done this before. but since he asked, why not! I m not in the mood to think either!


So, here are the rules and regulation.
Each person must post 11 things about themselves in their journal.
Answer the question tagger set for you in their post and create 11 new questions for the people you tagged the answer.
Choose 11 people to tag the post and link them to the post.
Go to their page and tell them you have tagged him/her.. No tags back okeh?

And these are the questions I’ll need to answer (with their answers);

How ambitious are you?

I am very ambitious and I would always try to get em! 2 fulfilled, more to be materialised! Insyallah!

Do you cry at movies? if so, which movies make you cry?

Cry like hardcore? Nope! But teary eyes yes. Love You Man caused me tears since I could really feel it. Its about friendship and buddy. Yeah! could feel it!

If you could go back and change something about your high school days, what would it be?
I want to pass my PMR with flying colours so that I could be with my friends there longer. *sigh*

What does love mean to you?

It means everything to me. It doesnt only mean love to the opposite sex, it means a lot more than that. To me, love is everything! YES! EVERYTHING. Love means taking care of each other and be for each other in time of bad or good! Caring is love! Taking care of each other is definitely love! Yup! Love to me is everything!

Spender or a saver.

Spender! TOTALLY! B.I.G SPENDER!

How important is your family to you?

Really important! I have 2 big bros, 3 sisters, 1 lil bro, a dad, my makcik, my along and angah, my anak2 sedaras and my cucus! I love them all!

How romantic are you?

I am very romantic! CAPITAL ROMANTIC!! Just dont get me start ya! hehe. If running in a train with a bouquet of flowers from KL to Johor doesnt mean romantic, then.... what is? huhu

The worst thing you ever did to your friend.

Lie!

What something you know you do differently than most people?

I clean my nose with a rolled tissue like everyday! hehe.

Your biggest regret.

There is one! But regret would never build you. so just face it and walk pass it!

Why are you, you?

I m so unique and critical. I think a lot and sometimes I couldnt sleep just to think about something. I m a practical person and very determine in what I do. I m flexible, but yet aim high. I expect perfection and would always try to be such! A very motivated person, and when I said something, I really mean it. I face my problems and would always try my best to be better and better. I m unstoppable and always hold on to my principal that is...I will survive! and would always do thing in my own way! Independant indeed and.... of course...... caring! I care a lot about how people think of and about me. I m unique and difficult! that is why I am who I am!

& heres 11 things bout me,

1. CARING

2. LOVING

3. INDEPENDENT

4. BAD WITH MONEY

5. LOVE PUBLIC SPEAKING

6. DARING

7. PRETENTOUS.

8. DETERMINE

9. MOTIVATED

10. LOYAL

here's my ANSWER TO a very simple questionnaire posted by my BRO. ;p

What your parents calls you?

Aki / Zaki

What your siblings calls you? (if you dont have any, consider your cousins or close relatives)
Acu / Dik ki.

What your friends calls you?

Primary: Zaki

SecondarY 1: Michael

Secondary 2: Y-men

Uni 1: Zek

Uni 2: Muhammad.

What name people usually calls you?

Zaki /Zack

Have you ever watched a horror movie alone in a dark room? if yes, what movie is it?

Yes! I cant recall since I switched it of after that!

What cartoon character suits you the best?

Owh! yes! My friend santhy said "You are so similar to spongebob since you cant just sit there doing nothing. You would always be jumping up and down, and nakal!"

Which part of yourself you hate @ dislike the most? can be body parts, or internal maybe attitude

I dont like the part where I can detect liars since it hurts A LOT!

What do you think about guys who cooks?

Awesome!

What do you think about girls who cant cook?

Typical!

What kind of attire or clothes which you think guys should never wear?

Skinny tight jeans/ pants! Gosh! looks so like bangau! and I do think it would cause 'senak perut!"

What kind of attire or clothes which you think girls should never wear?

Bosom revealing clothing! Euwww!

Now its my turn:

1. Do you think you are so special until you look down on other people?

2. What do you think of people who pretend a lot?

3. Have you ever lied to anybody and feel no regret at all about it?

4. What is your food craving?

5. Have you ever being caught lying?

6. Have you ever judged other people wrongly?

7. Has anybody told you that you cant do something but you insisted in doing it and you finally agree with that person that you actually cant do it?

8. Who is the dearest person in your life now?

9. Have you ever caused problem to others?

10. What is the one thing you want to get rid off and why?

11. Have you ever wish that you were someone else?

Ok! Back to work!

It stays here!

The best bday I had! ... enough said!

The first... and ... hmm...

http://cjaybestbud.blogspot.com/2009/10/happy-birthday-bro-zack.html

...^_^...of all the people in this world...^_^...

Can you guest who is that guy (stripy shirt) which appeared in The Star, Monday 26 September 2011 (page 4, StarMetro section)?

a. I
b. Me
c. All the above.

Haha! Lucky Monday! I'm smiling BIG! Yeah!

Keletihan Julai... tapi seronok juga...

Last july I was all over the place. Courses here and there. However, there is this one event where I think is the most tiring of em all. BTN 2: Bina pasukan... damn tired. Here are some of the photos (with me in em!).

before we depart! wah! I look so slim!

me! in action! So drama king!

Up! up ! and away!
Ikat Rakit sampai tgn luka n sore for weeks!

We cookwd! We served! We ate! We owned them!

Me in action with Keli aka Catfish!

I just cant take photo normally, can I?

Love this sooooo much!

Before the action begin!

Hiargh!!!!!

Lentok time!

Ready to float! weehuuuu!

I look bad in trekky!

Morning call!

Cheer! Cheer! Cheer!

Smile! Terpaksa!

Tired lahhh!

Me! Climbing down the wall!

Helping Feroz with his 'crotch" hahaha!

That is all folk! There are many more! However, they are arranged not in order since I just simply jumbled them up! Anyway! I was so tired!

Ps: I look cool lah! hahaha.

Guys in action HUARGHHHHH!!!!!!!

Selain kami sibuk lawan Angry Birds, memancing, main bowling and other games menggunakan Miss Tabby, kami juga berkesempatan mengamuk di hari raya ke 3. Yup! we burned many things. Look at these pictures. We BERSIHkan apa yang patut. And the popular lines for that day were..
"Kite bakor je! Kite bakor!"
and "BUANGGGGGG!"
hehe.

The heavy infested store room was cleansed, and we do hope rats wont colonise the place ever again! shuh! Shuh! So, if other people were enjoying taking photos with babies, we on the other hand were perspiring burning what should be burned! ROAR!!!!! Kill kill.. die! die!!!

Javelin throw! or more like pokok pisang Amok!!!

fire... fire....

We made it! Yeah!!!

Dont play soft with me! or I will senduk you! hua hua hua.

The NOT so gleely family. Hoho! Look at my shirt! Ooh!! Memoryyyyy!

Love it love it LOVE IT ... A LOT!

I managed to get my hands on her...latest album....
Indeed, it is so awesome! Good music. However, her voice, her music is so familiar. I wonder, who is her idol since she indeed sound soooo... familiar.
When I listened to her songs, I kept on thinking about Baby Spice. I dont know why... hmm

This is my current fav...

Love its lyrics tooo... you go Gomez!!!



My Dilemma- Selena Gomez

You make me so upset sometimes
I feel like I could lose my mind
The conversation goes nowhere
'Cause you're never gonna take me there
And I know what I know
And I know you're no good for me
Yeah, I know what I know
And I know it's not meant to be

He's my dilemma
One half of me wants ya
And the other half wants to forget
My-my-my dilemma
From the moment I met ya
I just can't get you out of my head
And I tell myself to run from you
But I find myself atractted to my dilemma
My dilemma
It's you, it's you

Your eyes have told a thousand lies
But I believe them when they look in mine
I heard the rumors but you won't come clean
I guees i'm hoping it's because of me

And I know what I know
And I know you're no good for me
Yeah, I know what I know
And I know it's not meant to be

He's my dilemma
One half of me wants ya
And the other half wants to forget

My-my-my dilemma
From the moment I met ya
I just can't get you out of my head
And I tell myself to run from you
But I find myself atractted to my dilemma
My dilemma
It's you, it's you

I could live without you
Your smile, your eyes
The way you make me feel inside
I could live without you
But I don't wanna
I don't wanna, oh
Oh, you make me so upset sometimes

He's my dilemma
One half of me wants ya
And the other half wants to forget
My-my-my dilemma
From the moment I met ya
I just can't get you out of my head
(Get you out of my...)
And I tell myself to run from you
But I find myself atractted to my dilemma
My dilemma
It's you, it's you
It's you, it's you
It's you, it's you
It's you, it's you
It's you, it's you
It's you, it's you
My-my-my dilemma

Raya Raya!

Assalamualaikum WBT. And it is not too late for me to wish

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SELAMAT HARI RAYA
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to all

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May this Syawal bring you everlasting happiness.

Well this year, I managed to drag all my family members to get together and snap our family photo. FYI, we are not the 'typical' protocol family where every Raya morning, we are going to line up and ask forgiveness from our parents. Our way, since before, would be so simple. We wake up early, make some noise, take turn to take shower, make some noise, eat, make some noise, get dressed, make some noise, get ready to go to mosque, make some noise. Then, in between we are going to ask each other's forgiveness, hug each other and make some more noise. Yup! We are not the typical 'displayed on TV' kind of family. For us, where ever we are, we are going to hug each other whenever we meet, then make some noise. So, to really sit down, line up and take photo would be so not us. hehe.

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This year, I just wouldnt let another chance goes by. So, after we had our Kenduri Arwah, after all guests had left, I said to all my family members, "Jom semua! Beratuq! Ambil gambaq!" Then I ran into the house, grabbed my tripod and pushed the sofa aside, and asked all of them to sit down. Yeah! I did it! Some of them wanted to get change la, nak pakai baju raya la, I said "Tak payah! let us be the normal, neutral, natural as, as the way we are!"
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So we sat down together, set some cameras on tripods, and then...

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SNAP!
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SNAP!
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SNAP!

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SNAP!

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SNAP!

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SNAP!

SNAP!

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SNAP!

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SNAP!

Well that is all I can say! The old LOUD family of mine. This memory will remain forever. If I m no longer around, at least they can still see me in these photos.

From left: front row- Fara (my anak sedara's wife), Lila (my grandaughter), Aina (anak sedara), Lisa (cucu), Zunnur (anak sedara), Safiya (anak sedara), Along Shima (anak sedara menantu susu aka sepupu ipar).

Second front row- Ee (my anak sedara), Fifi (anak sedara), Ayiz (anak sedara), Tachik (anak sedara), Mohamad (anak sedara), Una (anak sedara) and Kak Kilah (anak sedara)

Third row (the otais)- Baak (my brother), Kak Chaq (my sister), Pak ( my dad), Bang Chaq (my bro in Law), Bang Halim (my bro in law), and Cikpah (my sister)

Fourth row- B.Jun (brother), Kak Ana (sis in law), Kak Yang (sis in law), Kakak aka Dik No (my sis), Abang Hazni (bro in law), Along (my cousin aka anak sedara susu), Akeem (my anak sedara), Eril (anak sedara), Aiman (anak sedara) and last but not least... Ana, Me, Moah!!

(Ji-ah is not in the photo since she was asleep in her cradle.)

That is all for now. More raya piccies will be uploaded soon. Now, its time to work... T_T

I can now online non-stop!... weeeee!!!!

I was 'away' offline for too long! My lappy is not that ok. He is old and weary! But i still need him when I need to do some hardcore design and office works. Anyway... to make me online more, and to make my life mo flexi... I have treated myself with.....

tadaaaa.....

hehe! Chomeyyyyyy ah! Have been using it for a week. i havent ventured it that much, but Miss tabby doesnt dissappoint me! O' love! I have now have a new toy to play with!

2011 is a year of new things. gadgets etc. So.. I can wait what more change will I face or do! Anyway.... i m still the same ol me. The caring, pasionnate and loving person. Just that I have added some new flavours to my 'self''. Another BIG change is coming over... just wait.. or maybe I can say 3 BIG CHANGES will take their place. hoho.

Overal, Samsung Galaxy Tab is awesome! No regrets in buying it. Sorry Ipad2. I think you lost it for now!

Ps: These are all the MIsses in my life

a) Miss V

b) Missy V

C) Cik Non

d) MIss Tabby

e) Miss Mooo

f) Miss Delly

cinta teragung

A very good video which can make you remember the purest love of all. Dont mind the video. Just focus more on the lyrics yah! its sooo beautiful

Maafkan aku sekiranya tak termampu
Untuk mencurahkan semua isi hatiku
Ternyata tak terkata
Rinduku padamu

Chorus
Ku takkan bisa menjadi lebih
Dari apa yang terdaya
Namun ku tetap berjanji
Akan masih mencuba untuk
Memujuk hatimu
Mencintai aku
Kerna semua yang ada
Hanyalah untukmu

Secebis perasaan ku hamparkan
Membawa sejuta harapan
Menagih cinta
Teragung darimu

Ulang Chorus 2X

Maafkan aku sekiranya
Tak termampu untuk
Mencurahkan semua
Isi hatiku

Pondering Point "-_-

SOGO DIHURUNGI MANUSIA SHOPPING RAYA

Pagi tadi, as I was getting ready for work, I switched on my TV. MHI was on. I kind of like to watch MHI early in the morning, especially if Wardina is on since she is REAL! She would simply say things which will later let us say 'Hey! That's true!"

By the way, this morning, Wardina was not on duty. Instead, they had Abby Fana with a guy which I cant recall his name.

There was this one slot, they invited Dato' Fadzilah Kamsah to take some calls and kind of console the callers.

Today, they discussed about Perbelanjaan Menjelang Aidilfitri. And what makes you 'tension' when Aidilfitri is around.

A caller from Seremban (a lady) called. She nearly cried. This is her story...

"Saya sudah lama tidak merasakan hariraya. Setiap tahun, saya akan tengok kembali baju yang lama-lama, dan saya akan alter, jahit semula ataupun saya akan tambah bunga atau corak bagi baju tu nampak lain. Saya penoreh getah. Saya tak mampu, jadi baju lama tu lah saya buka, dan jahit semula. Saya tambah jahitan bunga, biar nampak baru."

"Setiap pagi raya, saya memang tidak akan ada dirumah. Sudah lama mcm ni. Saya dan suami akan keluar menoreh dipagi raya. Kalau ada dirumah, pintu dibuka, nanti akan ada tetamu sampai. Mcmana saya nak jamu mereka makan? Apa pun saya tak sediakan. Saya tak mampu"

"Ada anak, tapi mereka tak pernah balik sewaktu hari raya. Mereka langsung tak pedulikan saya dan suami. Jadi, bila raya, mmg itulah yang kami akan buat. Kami menoreh"

Well... from the story, it was kind of sad to hear that. I did not hear everything, however, from comments made by DR Fadzilah Kamsah, it seems that, the children left the mother because their mom got married to another. Then they kind of neglecting the mother. So the mother cried.

Hmm...

Who to blame when this thing happen?

Then they talked about pembahagian balik beraya between spouse. This one, for sure I can reflect since I have seen this a lot of time. Fadzilah kamsah sangat betul! Kita tak boleh terlampau rigid to what we have agreed upon masa kita nak kawin@ baru kawin dulu. CTH:

"Nanti bila dah kawin, kita take turn balik raya. This year rumah ayang. next Year rumah Aling."

Yes! We must bertolak ansur. Ikut kata Fadzilah Kamsah, utamakan pihak yang ada ibu@ ayah tua. Tambah pulak kalau ibubapa dah uzur. anak sorang etc. Kita tak boleh nak berkeras jugak nak ikut giliran seperti yang kita janji dulu masa sebelum kahwin. Semua kena guna common sense.

This thing happens several times in my family. I really want to comment here, but I dont think it is kind of 'that' appropriate. Cth: If mak sakit. yng tinggal cuma anak bujang lelaki. At least kena la sorang anak perempuan balik tolong mak buat persiapan raya. tak bolehla suami nak juga berkeras nak balik ke kampung dia disebabkan giliran dah sampai. Semua ni boleh di ubah guna budi bicara. Suami isteri kena la saling memahami.

Byk kali aku tgk arwah mak nangis disebabkan hal mcm ni. Ye la. Dia tak larat nak masak apa semua. Anak2 pulak semua berkeras nak ikut turn. Kalau tak ikut nanti masalah pulak. Tu la kalau orang pelik kenapa aku boleh memasak, sebab mcm ni la. When you have ageing and old parents you have to take both roles; a daughter and a son. so kena pandai buat dua-dua. Pandai buat kerja dapur, memasak, kemas rumah, tak bermakna lembik atau pondan. Orang yang tak boleh switch role tu yang mmg patut malu sebab dorang hanya rigid kepada sesuatu benda. Lelaki: kerja berat. Xboleh masak, x boleh kemas. So shame on them.

Satu lagi, we have to reflect ourself. Apa akan jadi kalau kita ditemapt dorang. Just take the case of my mum. Even though, she knew that she could count on me, tp at the same time dia nak la juga anak pentingkan dia sikit. Ye la! Dia sakit. So anak2 le kena guna OTAK dan fikir semua ni. Just imagine, what would you do bila you are in their position. Kesian.

Aku pun kadang2 kesiankan diri sendiri. Apa tak nya, slalu anak lelaki lepas raya je, sure gi sana sini beraya. But like my case, I have to stay at home (in the kitchen) to help my mum serve guests and all. So, tak dapat join raya di dunia lelaki out there.

Duduk dapur, kemas2, hidang makan mmg dah biasa dah. Kalau tak aku buat, sapa lagi? But, now mom is no longer 'around' so I just buat tak tahu je. Now... Raya means... tido! haha.

Satu lagi fazilah kamsah commented on some people's behavior yang bila raya, nak tukar semua satu rumah. Semua kena baru. So dia kata "itu pemikiran gen-Y. Orang dulu-dulu. Skrang gen-X, dah takda semua tu."

Aku sangat setuju. Dulu, kalau raya, semua perabut nak ganti. skrang people just make do with what they have. many things can be reuse and recycle, so why bother to buy new ones? So just forget the Kak Timah menyambut raya kind of lifestyle. Keep it simple and sweet. Save some money, buy gold dinar, and save for your future.

This raya, I have decided to
wear last year's baju, songkok etc.

buy a few shirt since malaysia is in sale. So buy some good shirt, (esp office attire)

buy some biskut raya for contigency.

buy new office shoes. hehe.

stay at home.

till then.. See ya.

*I m busy, but I m just lost!

YOU SUCK AT LOVE!

OMG! How can these people manage to play carom in the office, while I dont even manage to breathe properly! Sicko sicko!

The due date is really near. 22/8/11. How many days left? gosh! a few more days! Need to set some appointments. Manage to get one, but what should I present! Mati loooooooo!

Working mood at home, so no no! What I want to do at home is just relax and enjoy my brown sofa.

AND shaite!!!! these people can still play carom and made noise like shaiteee!

Today! Simple Plan.... since 10am till now! loving them a lot! their new album is somewhat 'fresher' and milder than before. Enjoy their 1st tune so badly! and also, as usual their slow number is soo AHHHHHHHHHHHHHHSSSSSOOOOMMEEE! love it love it!

Today... the sound of carom and annoying people laughing is submerged in my SIMPLE PLAN! you guys rawksss!!!

YOU SUCK AT LOVE!!!!! X0X0

Last night...

Last night I went to Tarawikh. The surau is just a stone throw from my house. The surau is equiped with air-conditioner so people would be flocking there just to 'enjoy' the coldness. However, that is not the case.

Last night, when I was praying, I just couldnt stop myself from crying. My late mum's image flashed non-stop in front of me.

I heard her voice...

"Jom la kita pi terawih. Mak nak jalan pegang hang. Kuat sikit mak rasa."

Then, I could still remember her saying...

"Torchlight ni tak elok dah. Nanti hang beli baru kat mak. Senang mak nak bawak pi terawih."

And this the one that made me cried harder...

"Ki... hang buka posa makan apa?"

and for sure I miss her masak asam ikan masin a lot. This is my fav sahur dish.

Now....

I wont be able hear her voice again. I wont be able to hold her when we walk to the nearest mosque for tarawikh. I wont be able to taste her best masak asam ikan masin....

Raya is coming... and for sure

I wont be able to kiss her again. I wont be able to ask for her forgiveness. I wont be able to hug her. I wont be able to see her waiting for me by the door while I m cleaning the house.

Truthfully.... I wish raya would never come so that I wont have to face the sadness and the emptiness of not having the person that I cared the most. My mum.

My brother smsed me last night. He said...

"Raya ni aku balik kampong. Kita pi lawat mak"

My sister smsed me last night. She said...

"Aku rindu nak call mak pastu dengar dia kata "Na! Ni mak ni!""

My other sister said this to me..

"Kalau mak ada boleh la aku pi terawikh. Bolehla mak tunggu adik"

And my other brother texted me and said...

"Bayangkan bagaimanakah keadaan Ibu juga Bapa yang mendapat doa dari anak2nya yang berniat disetiap amal, pahala untuknya terus2an."

Everything yesterday was about my mum.

I miss my mom badly. She is gone, and I m now so lost and lonely. Feel like a dust in the thin air. No direction and hopelessly floating, wondering where will I land once the wind stop blowing.

To all you out there...

love your mum and cheerish her love. Appreciate those who love you 'coz you would never know when they will be taken away from you. 'coz once they are gone, it is useless to even cry blood. They wont be coming back.

Yup! last night I cried.

Mak! Aki sayang mak!.

AlFatihah.

~n~

Emotionally Not Good At All!

Sigh! Here I m. sighing again. Yup! I dont really know how should I describe my feeling now. Should I feel happy or should I feel sad?

Well.. financially I am doing great. I also heard that some good news are coming too, but I m just not in the mood to feel happy. I smile, but just a faint smile.

Last weekend will definitely be the moment that I will remember untill the day I die. There are still many things left unsaid, but trust me, I would never EVER want that kind of thing to happen again. Feel so hopeless and lost now. I do hope the 'spilled' things would make it better. Now, I truely agree with some counsellor's advice that is... when you happen to face any conflict, you must let it out. If you keep it in you, it will definitely be a time bomb, just waiting for the right time to explode.

Well, Ramadhan is here and its time to 'mend' and 'fix' yourself. Its the healing season. I do hope I wouldn't be dragging my Ramadhan in sorrow. I want to see lights at the end of the tunnel. I want to be better. A better human, a better muslim and a better..... erm... brother. I do hope Allah would give the chance to prove it and I do hope He (Allah) would permit such and grant all my Doas. I will definitely send my prayers everyday, non-stop, at least 5 times a day (after my solah).

There are a few things that I would not miss in my Doa. Of of the thing is to hope Allah would let me become a better brother and a better muslim. I know I m not perfect, but I will try my best to be at least a good brother and muslim. I have my ups and downs too. I have my emotion turmoil too. I do know that Allah would help me go through them all and be a successful person. Insyallah. He has the power.

There are a few things which I will have to complete within these 30 days. One of them will definitely change my future (Insyallah).

I just hope that my shoulder is warm and good enough for some other people to lean and share with me all his/ her hiccups.

To all people whom I love dearly, please forgive me. I need you guys in my life and there is no hidden agenda underneath it. You guys are so special and I want you guys to stay. I love you guys more than I love myself. Enough said. You know who you are.

Now the lyrics of this song is playing in my head repeatedly. Just cant shut it down. So here it goes, I share it with you.

One Republic- Come Home

Hello world hope you're listening
Forgive me if I'm young or speaking out of turn
But there's someone I've been missing
And I think that they could be the better half of me

They're in the wrong place tryin' to make it right
But I'm tired of justifying

So I say to you come home come home
'cause I've been waiting for ya for so long for so long
And right now there's a war between the vanities
But all I see is you and me
And the fight for you is all I've ever known
So come home

I get lost in the beauty of everything I see
The world ain't half as bad as they paint it to be
If all the sons and all the daughters stop to take it in
Well hopefully the hate subsides and the love can begin

It might start now yeah
Or maybe I'm just dreaming out loud

But until then come home come home
'cause I've been waiting for ya for so long for so long
And right now there's a war between the vanities
But all i see is you and me
And the fight for you is all I've ever known ever known
So come home ooh

Everything I can't be is everything you should be
And that's why I need you here
Everything I can't be is everything you should be
And that's why i need you here

So hear this now come home come home
'cause i've been waiting for ya for so long for so long
And right now there's a war between the vanities
But all i see is you and me
And the fight for you is all i've ever known ever known
So come home come home

Salam Ramadhan to All. Wishing you a great month ahead. Insyallah.

Tips 2: We are contributing to our own problem in the classroom!

8 Things Teachers Do To Encourage Misbehavior
by Michael Linsin on December 4, 2010


All the things I thought I knew, I'm learning again I've been tryin' to get down to the heart of the matter -Don Henley, The Heart Of The Matter
Teachers cause much of the misbehavior in their classrooms.

True, students come to class with behavior issues and personal agendas. Some are prone to misbehavior and are difficult to deal with. A few may even enjoy trying to disrupt your class.

But more often than not, the teacher is the problem.

If you were a fly on the wall of teachers who struggle with classroom management, you would find many commonalities. Among them are teacher behaviors that actually encourage students to misbehave.

Teaching is challenging enough. Putting yourself behind the eight ball by your own doing can make it unbearable.

Let There Be Light

The only classroom management-related problems that don’t have solutions are those we’re unaware of. Once illuminated, there is always a way to solve the problem or make it manageable.

In that spirit, the following list represents things teachers do unknowingly that encourage misbehavior.

1. Talking over students.

Talking over students breeds inattentiveness, side-talking, and poor listening. If your students have trouble following directions, this is often the culprit. The simple solution is to wait until you have the full attention of your class before speaking.

2. Rushing around.

Being in a hurry creates tension in the classroom, causing restlessness, excitability, and poor behavior. This common mistake is easily corrected by trimming the fat from your curriculum, being better prepared, and then slowing down.

3. Answering call-outs.

Answering students who don’t raise their hand encourages disrespect and communicates to your students that your classroom management plan is no longer valid. Condition yourself not to respond no matter who asks a question or how insightful it may be.

4. Moving on.

Continuing with lessons or instructions when students are inattentive–or worse–lets them know that less than their best is good enough. Wait until your students are giving you exactly what you want before moving on.

5. Negative thinking.

Negative thoughts about students always bubble to the surface–body language, tone of voice, sarcasm–causing resentment, misbehavior and, ultimately, revenge. Choose to see the best in your students… and that’s what they’ll give you.

6. Irritability.

Showing frustration, taking behavior personally, reacting emotionally. These self-sabotaging behaviors will weaken your influence and undermine your ability to control your classroom. Instead, keep your cool and lean heavily on your classroom management plan.

7. Clutter.

Classroom clutter shows a lack of pride that rubs off on students and leads to unwanted behavior–the broken windows theory at work. A pin-neat, attractive classroom, on the other hand, is congruent with, and transfers to, values like hard work, neatness, respect, and character.

8. Self-defeat.

Believing that students decide whether or not you have a good class is a belief that virtually eliminates the possibility of creating the teaching experience you really desire. The fact is, we create the class we want, not our students.

The Heart Of The Matter

These eight teacher behaviors cut straight to the heart of why so many teachers struggle with classroom management.

Rules and procedures. Incentives and consequences. They’re important, to be sure.

But they alone are not the answer.

You must get to the heart of the matter, which is deeper than stickers, strategies, charts, or time-outs. It’s more than outside circumstances. More than names on a roster.

The heart of the matter is YOU!!

Some good tips. No 1: No Shush!

I'm really interested in classroom management issues. This focuses on how you can control your students and how you make the best of the class period. While browsing some articles for my next project, I found these informative points. So for all educators out there... just scroll down and learn, ok!


Why You Shouldn’t Shush Your Students; And What To Do Instead
by Michael Linsin on May 21, 2011

When you hear a teacher shushing students, it’s a good sign things aren’t going well.

Behind tight shoulders, tired eyes, and index finger poised over puckered lips, you’ll find a teacher struggling to keep his or her head above water.

Shushing students to quiet them down is associated with shaky-at-best classroom management, chronically distracted students, and a mountain of stress.

And because it becomes progressively less effective the more you do it, shushing promises more and more frustration as the school year rolls on.

Though not as self-sabotaging as yelling or scolding, shushing similarly makes teachers less likeable with students.

It also makes you look like you don’t know what you’re doing.

Follow the steps below and you’ll never feel the need to shush, hush, or plead for silence again.

1. Decide

Before starting any activity, decide the voice level you want from your students. It’s important you consider this ahead of time. After all, if you don’t know what you want, your students won’t know either.

2. Model

Gather your students around you and model precisely the voice level you expect. Make your modeling exercise as detailed and realistic as you can. Your students need to see and experience what you want before it makes sense to them.

3. Practice

Ask your students to turn to the student(s) next to them and discuss their favorite movie or other topic using the voice level you modeled. Have them practice and prove to you they understand what you expect.

4. Observe

Good teachers observe a lot to make sure their expectations are being met. Start your activity and monitor their voice level closely—especially within the first several minutes.

5. Stop

If at any time their voice level gets louder than your expectation, instead of shushing your students, stop the activity by signaling for their attention. Do this whenever they exceed the level you’ve asked for.

6. Remind

After getting your students attention, remind them what the voice level expectation is and put them on notice that if anyone goes beyond it, there will be a consequence—as promised by your classroom management plan.

7. Enforce

Listening and following directions should be one of your classroom rules. As such, if any single student is unable or unwilling to keep his or her voice level as modeled and practiced, then enforce a consequence.

Note: With group discussions, voice levels tend to increase as students attempt to talk over the other voices in the room. If it becomes loud enough to distract individual groups, simply stop them, ask them to take a few deep breaths, and then restart the activity. Do not, however, enforce a consequence.

8. Standardize

Consider standardizing the speaking levels in your classroom. For example:

Level 0: No Talking
Level 1: Whispering
Level 2: Small Group Discussion
Level 3: Whole Class Sharing
Create a small poster for reference and before every activity say simply, “For the assembly today, we’re at level zero.”

Effective At Any Grade

It may take a week or two for your students to get the hang of it. But when they do, controlling noise and voice levels in your classroom is easy and becomes something you never really have to think about.

Setting voice level expectations—for partner sharing, group work, browsing in the library, or just a walk across campus—through the super-effective one-two combination of detailed modeling and student practice works at any grade level.

And it’s so much more effective than having no clear picture of what you want, no expectation to model for your students, and no sound strategy to modulate the voices in your classroom…

Other than a great big ugly, “Shhhh!”

Courtesy :
http://www.smartclassroommanagement.com/2011/05/21/why-you-shouldnt-shush-your-students/

Confession of a single working guy!

Yeah! That is true. I have a confession to make. I m DAMN busy. I even am doing my work now. It is 8 pm and I m still in the office. It has been 4 consequitive days that I am being the 'penunggu' of this office.

Guess what? I have many things to be done. And out of a sudden, I am now a leader, a project manager, a coordinator for so many things. Just imagine. They are all not easy. With proposals, with books, projects, presentations, coordinations.... i m now going crazy! i m like the busiesnt staff in the office.

Yesterday morning I had a fight with a technician from the photocopying company. He swore to me in Mandarin. Then I replied. And last night... had a fight with my bro! My words seems to be accepted wrongly, and my so called try to cheerish him, turned out to be disastrous. And his mood was not good too since he had his problems too. So last night, we brothers had a fight! A big one. But, being the elder brother, I wouldnt just let things to get worse. I said my sorry. i m not sure whether he will forgive me. but I do hope 'air dicincang takkan putus.' So sorry bro. T_T

last night didnt have enough sleep either. Woke up several times. Had terrible dreams and being awaken by some smses late at night from some people.. then... the world ended and continues this morning... sighs!

today.. i skipped lunch! i just couldnt eat. Just to think about my piling works, my argument with my bro, my health prob, my personal problem, and other issues... just get my blood goes up and up and UP!!!!!! and HEADACHE!

today, after my 2-hour class, I sit here, at my table, and refuse to get up. I got away from the table just for a cup of air suam and toilet and solat. the rest... here I am. glued to this seat.

Oh ya.. what makes me update my blog while I ve got so many things to do? coz i feel so terrible. i just need to tell somebody how terrible I am now. Wanna tell my bro, but surely he is still mad at me. Hope he is fine and enjoying his time there. so here, I am blogging for like 5 minutes.

there are so many swear words I would like to shout out aloud now, but I just cant coz I am alone, and I dont want pak guard (while doing his routine 'roaming') would hear me and think that i have gone mad!

I have to let it out anyway.. so here it goes....

FUCK.... FUCK.... FUCK!.... FUCK!....FUCK!.... FUCK!

I have been Quite Quiet!

Mua in action!~ lalala



I m caught with so many things. Yup! I havent logged in to my FB account for like weeks. I m so busy with so many things. I travelled a lot lately. From Penang to Ipoh to Seremban to Shah Alam to Seremban to KL to Penang to Kuala Lipis to Penang to Seremban to KL to Seremban to Lenggeng to Seremban to Lenggeng to Malacca to Seremban to Malacca to Seremban to KL to Penang. Pheww! Luckily I have miss V with me.

Yup! Miss V has a lil' sister now! Missy V. Hoho! I hope Missy V will be taken care of carefully. And I m sure she will be good!

I have got another big project involving thousands of people. I m glad that I managed to enjoy my 'holiday' lately. *Enjoy ke? ahaks*. (^0^)

Watched many movies. Transformers was the last one. Watched it at Times Square. but I didnt enjoy it that much. why? coz the 3D spectacle didnt suit my current being.. I mean bespectacled! I had to keep on adjusting it to ensure that it wont fall down... if not.. I will be seeing the frame of that 3D spect all the time.. and since the cinema is SOOO BIG, people kept on going in and out of the cinema. I dont blame them though! It was a 3-hour movie! what do you expect! and... sadly, i felt asleep! haha.

erm... Witnessed some things which I PRAY would never happen again. I do hope that person would think wisely before doing something that would put him in a mess. Think and think again before doing something. Learn from the past please!

Financially, I think, I m doing ok. (o_o)

Career wise, going strong....but... I hate it so much when people start labelling me with labels like:

"Boss's pet!"
"The Most Important Staff" etc etc..

Stop labelling people please.

My sun-burned skin is getting better. Still itchy and scratchy! but getting better.

Lately feel so lonely. Dont blame me, I had a company for nearly a month. So to get use to it.. needs time.

I m fasting today. It has been 3 consequtive days. Today is my last day! Yeay! What's for brekky? seriously no idea!

I want to bla bla bla on the movies that I have watched but, I m so not in the mood to describe loooooong about things. Want to know more just go to :

http://cjaybestbud.blogspot.com/

or

http://sicipol.blogspot.com/

you will find them all there. Owh, by the way... suddenly this song comes out in my playlist.. so... read the lyrics and feel it...

MALAM- M.Nasir

Malam
Bila rinduku bertambah dalam
Kau datang lagi dengan kenangan
Oh! betapa dinginnya malam ini

Kasih
Bila malamku bertambah kelam
Seribu kisah melintas mata
Dan malam ini sungguh mencengkam

Bila malam
Tiap kali ku pandang semalam
Resahku sering menjadi dendam
Hatimu ku rasakan dingin

Dan malam
Adalah masa yang membawa kesan
Pada diriku yang kesepian
Kini ku tenggelam
Di bawah alunan ombak malam
Oh! malam

Bila malam
Tiap kali ku pandang semalam
Resahku sering menjadi dendam
Hatimu ku rasakan dingin

Dan malam
Jika dikau dapat bicara
Katakanlah pada hamba
Mengapa dia pergi membawa hati ini
Oh! mengapa
Oh! Malam


Ok! Must get back to work! this entry is just for my short break from falling asleep. Have been sitting here since 8.00am working on my book. Brain got jammed, so I bla bla bla here.


By the way, tmrw and the day after tmrw will be my working day! yeay!!!!!!

Alfatihah buat Azaryna Noh (aka. Aza)

Berita yang aku dapat from Blog Cik Fatin is indeed nearly bring me to tears. Well, I know Aza quite well. We went to Sydney together in the same flight and we lived at Msian Hall. We bumped into each other quite frequent. I could still see her in her red jacket/ sweater walking down the stairs, or just plainly lined up for our lunch or dinner. She was talkative too. But later, she was quite passive and I didnt see her that much till I m back in Malaysia 2 years ago. i got to know that she is suffering from Idiopathic Pulmonary Fibrosis (ILP) which makes her lungs malfunction. I, Fatin and Jan did visit her when she was hospitalised in Malaysia years ago. Yup! She did lost weight. And once incident which will make I remember the visit was when she cried in front of us. Only she knows the suffering. Now, Allah has taken her earthly suffering.

I cant imagine what if the thing happen to me. Allah, please! Forgive me.

Here I attach some links to her stories. May us all learn something from this and take care of our health.

Azza.... Alfatihah buat kamu.

Click sini untuk kisah beliau...

http://http//www.utusan.com.my/utusan/info.asp?dt=1017&pg=kn_01.htm&pub=Utusan_Malaysia&sec=Kesihatan&y=2010


Ps: Sorry! I dont have her photo with me right now. So only this I found while googling her name.

Monday is THE DAY!

owh! How I love MONDAY!!! T_T